Sex Before Marriage??

[cordova]

I think that people should be free to choose whether to have sex or not before marriage and if they feel it's the right thing to do then go for it. I'm not really sure that this idea that society or part of it imposes on young people that sex before marriage is wrong is a good thing. After all what is wrong for me may prove to be good for other people. What happened to our free will? People should be responsible for their lives and able to decide how to live it freely. Stellenangebote


Take care!

[Elizabeth]

Dear Cordova,

That sounds like a good secular, humanist idea to me. However, you will find that most of the members of this board are believers in the holy scriptures and attempt to live by that standard, though we may not always succeed.

The New Testament scriptures are fairly clear about how a Christian ought to live and manage their sexuality. As the Apostle Paul rather inelegantly phrases it "It is better to marry than to burn."

Just saying!

Elizabeth

[Keith Sherwood]

The believer is instructed to live a chaste life

For the unmarried that means no premarital sex, that matter is simple for the believer

But for the just converted the matter is not always so simple

It is after belief that the life must be brought into line with the instructions in scripture. These issues can not be dealt with without the indwelling Spirit of God

The life is not cleaned before salvation but after, it is after that works that are in line with repentance (the change of mind) occur and the biblical instruction effects the heart

This can cause real difficult problems that both parties must agree to - not everything is so easy to resolve -nor is life for one the same as for another. The saved prisoner often is faced with a difficult situation when his partner, who has lived with him and born his children, been faithful and a supporter during years of imprisoment might not understand and needs time, explanation and consideration, when the partner is released - he owes her a huge debt of gratitude.

I hope believers are gentle and patient, and allow time when such cases happen


Keith

[Elizabeth]

Very true, Bro. Keith. These verses in Jude 1 come to mind:
21Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.
22And of some have compassion, making a difference:

My experience has been mostly with girls who move in with their boyfriend when they have finished high school. They would be around 18 years of age at that time. They inevitably broke up with their boyfriend and when they eventually met their future husband they regretted that they had not remained chaste. They all said that it seemed like a good idea at the time, but it was a bad idea in most cases.

One girl said "it was like living with my young brother." Of course it was - the 18 year old boyfriend was not a full-grown man yet and acted very boyish and dependent.

I am 14 years older than my young brother. I wouldn't live with him - he was a slob, he screamed and cried every time he didn't get his own way, he couldn't lift a finger to help in the house, my mother had to dress him. I could go on! He is 60 now and has improved greatly! At least, my sister-in-law Marianne says so and I have to believe her.

A note of humour doesn't hurt!

Elizabeth

[magog99]

I have no hang ups about sex; but I do have a hang about anything that is displeasing to God. So whatever the activity I have to ask myself, is what I am doing another nail in the nail pierced hand of the Son of God ? another thorn in his already thorn crowned brow ? This is a question we need to apply to every department of our lives.

Whatever happened to the view that "We are more than conquerors through Him who hath loved us". Whatever happened to the "Victorious Christian Life !" ?

For Christ's sake.......... WHY DID HE DIE ? Did He die so that we can live as we like ? St. Paul said "The MARRIAGE bed is undefiled !"

With no wish to be stuffy, maybe the time has come to take stock of our life styles ? St. Paul said, "I am a NEW creature in Christ Jesus............. OLD THINGS HAVE PASSED AWAY; BEHOLD ALL THING HAVE BECOME NEW ! Where is the indication of such change in some of the foregoing correspondence ?

If some of the comments on this subject on this site, are an indication of christian behaviour today, then it is NO wonder we are not seeing God's blessing !

Magog99